😠 Why Forgiveness Feels So Hard
Let’s be honest: forgiveness is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.
When someone you love hurts you — whether through words, betrayal, neglect, or rejection — it leaves a wound that doesn’t just heal overnight.
You might ask:
“How can I forgive when they don’t even seem sorry?”
“What if forgiving them means I’m saying it was okay?”
“What if I forgive… and it happens again?”
These are honest questions — and you're not wrong for asking them.
But here's what we often miss:
Forgiveness isn't letting them off the hook.
It's letting you off the hook — from carrying bitterness that poisons your heart.
🧠 What Forgiveness Isn’t
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It’s not forgetting what happened
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It’s not saying what they did was okay
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It’s not automatically restoring trust
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It’s not pretending you’re not hurt
💡 What Forgiveness Is
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It’s choosing to release someone from the debt they owe you
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It’s allowing your heart to begin healing
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It’s giving God room to be the ultimate judge
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It’s letting go of the need to keep score
Forgiveness is not about weakness — it’s about freedom.
🙏 What the Bible Says About Forgiveness
Scripture doesn’t minimize our pain — but it does call us to something deeper.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
— Ephesians 4:32
Jesus modeled forgiveness not when it was easy, but when it was costly.
Even from the cross, He said: “Father, forgive them.”
That same spirit lives in us — and gives us the power to forgive, even when it feels impossible.
🛠 How to Begin the Process of Forgiveness
You may not feel ready to fully forgive today — and that’s okay.
Forgiveness is often a journey, not a single decision.
Here are some small steps to begin:
1. Acknowledge the Pain Honestly
You can’t forgive what you won’t face.
Write it out. Pray about it. Talk to someone safe.
Give yourself permission to feel what you feel.
2. Release, Don’t Deny
Instead of stuffing the pain down, imagine handing it over to God.
Say, “I don’t want to carry this anymore.”
Let forgiveness be more about your freedom than their worthiness.
3. Set Boundaries if Needed
Forgiveness and trust are not the same.
You can forgive someone while still choosing distance, boundaries, or caution — especially if the behavior hasn’t changed.
4. Ask for Strength, Not Just Emotion
You may not feel forgiving — but forgiveness isn’t a feeling. It’s a choice, often made by faith.
Ask God:
“Give me the strength to forgive — even before I feel it.”
❤️ Forgiveness is for You, Too
Sometimes the hardest person to forgive… is yourself.
But here’s the truth:
You are not beyond grace.
You are not defined by your worst mistake.
You are still deeply loved.
If God offers you forgiveness, don’t reject what He paid so much to give.
💬 Still Wrestling with Forgiveness?
You're not alone.
Whether you're trying to forgive a spouse, a parent, a friend — or yourself — it’s okay to need help.
I offer a safe, grace-filled space where you can process pain and begin healing. Together, we can:
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Unpack the hurt
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Learn how to forgive wisely and safely
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Find peace without denying your reality
📅 Schedule a discounted first session with me today.
You don't have to carry it alone.